I am listening (audiobook) to this book called Unglued and I find myself laughing in the first few chapters at how ridiculous this lady is. Then I look at myself and remember I do the same exact thing. The book starts off with the author completely losing it over minor things like who is using which bath towels, a broken computer, a stolen computer, etc. How many times can you think of a moment where you were outraged about the smallest thing? It’s like when I get angry that someone is smacking their food or if the garbage bag is not put back in the trashcan after it is empty. Blind rage. Going off on anything and everything that moves. It is funny right now looking back at it but to be serious, why do we do this? Why do these fits of anger destroy our whole energy and the energy we give off to others? Is there a deeper problem or meaning?
When we are conscious and calm it is easy to say “I am at least grateful that I have a trashcan to put a trash bag into” and look on the bright side but to really be present in the moment of rage and laugh at yourself is a who other story. You can’t tell me that you don’t recall a temper tantrum and realize how ridiculous it it. In that moment, it is the most important thing in your life thought, right?
The author of Unglued talks about perception and the renewing of the mind. When I take off my glasses I can only see what is directly in front of me close up but with my glasses I am able to see everything. It changes my perception. We can’t get stuck in near sightedness or far sightedness. We have to have 20/20 vision in every situation and that sometimes requires a daily renewal of the mind. Everyday I wake up, I put my glasses on and see the world clearly.
That brings me to the point of focusing on what really matters. When you become unglued, unraveled, you have to ask yourself if this thing you are so distraught over is going to change anyones life for better or worse. Is it significant enough to ruin your day? Does that loud smacking in your ear annoy you, heck yes! But is it worth getting into an argument over? Once you tame these “emotional outburst” the less it will happen, I promise. Like I’ve said before, you have to starve negativity. And when you get that moment, ask yourself what is really going on. Most of the time for me, I’m just hungry 🙂