HA! It is laughable how much we think we know how to love. We toss the word around like its nothing, like it all of a sudden sprouts to life by simply saying it. I thought for sure I knew how to love someone but in all the scripture, I have not done a single one of the things love entails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New King James Version (NKJV)
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
God lays it out for us clearly yet we continue to misunderstand. The parts that I find hard are long-suffering and trust. You can’t have one without the other. None of these things listed in 1 Corinthians can exist without each other. You have to be patient to not only earn but to let someone else earn your trust. My good friend reminded me that everything in life must develop. It is not instantaneous. We are not born walking and talking. Those abilities have to be cultivated and taught.
So I’m looking at this time I have to cultivate and learn love. The greatest definition of love we have is the God is love. If it does not line up with God and his characteristics then it is not love. I really thought I knew how to love someone. Now that I have the realization, I understand why my relationships have failed. I had no clue what I was doing. Thank God for grace and mercy to protect us when we are wandering aimlessly, thinking we got it going on when we really don’t.
It would be so amazing to live a life FULL of love and I’m not talking about simply love between a man and a woman. I am referring to all the types of love: agápe, éros, philía, and storgē. Self love. A life FULL of the understanding of love. A life full of God who is love. I think we all should strive for this: LOVE.